Overcome Emetophobia fear of being sick-vomit – PACE, help video

The video below is an support video for people going through The Thrive Programme to overcome their fear of being sick/seeing others vomiting. The manual they are using is called ‘Cure your emetophobia and thrive‘ – which is available from this website. (There is also a teenagers with emetophobia version of the book)

The Thrive Programme is the most successful and predictable cure for emetophobia and is fully backed up by scientific research. In our own research survey, all 164 participants overcame their fear of being sick. The programme was created by Rob Kelly – a therapist with over 30 years clinical experience – who has helped thousands of people to overcome their fear of being sick, and live happy, fulfilled lives.

This particular video is about ‘PACE’ – Persistent and Continuous Effort,  on your journey to Thrive.

How to use PACE effectively and staying focused on achieving your goal to thrive throughout your life!

This is for someone who has gone through the book and ready to apply themselves now on a 6 or 8 week programme of getting themselves thriving and overcoming their symptoms.

Rob explains this as a ‘journey metaphor’. He often describes this as a journey from say Cambridge to London and all you need to do, is stay on the road heading in the right direction and moving forward and be utterly confident that you will get to where you need to be and reach your goal. It doesn’t matter how fast you reach your goal or slowly, you WILL get to where you need to be. Whether you are walking, driving or cycling, this doesn’t matter how long it will take you because you are confident in the knowledge that you will get there. Just keep moving forward, people who are going through the programme need only to make small changes each day, Persistent And Continuous Effort. If you put in effort you will see the results positively. However slow or fast you do this.

This is a particularly good metaphor for people who have chronic anxiety, emetophobia, ME, anorexia, low self-esteem etc, the journey you will make from the Cambridge to London metaphor, may have off shoot little roads along the way, and you may end up going down one by mistake, this doesn’t matter.

Lisa who had emetophobia, what she did very well and made her very successful in overcoming emetophobia and alcoholism in 4 1/2 days, what she did was that she didn’t wake up in the morning and assume she was thriving and then a few hours later only think about it and say “I’m not thriving, I’m not being positive, wheres my list, I’m being negative” she’s then had these hours in the day already going off on a complete tangent and then of course you can over-react and think you’ve gone miles off your journey and go off course and then your self-esteem can take a big hit. How do you avoid this? What Lisa did was made sure was that she was never more than 20-30 minutes off her journey, she would set her alarm on her phone to go off every 30 minutes, to bleep to remind her to check her thinking style and is she still thriving and being positive? If she wasn’t or she started to worry or have negative thoughts, the maximum time was 30 mins off track for her to re-check her thinking. Really this is not catastrophic, its not a problem that if you go off your route/journey a short distance, you can get back on the right track, so check your thinking throughout the day.

For another example you can put post-it notes up next to your bed so its the first thing you see when you wake up, deciding what sort of day you are going to have today, what sort of journey you are going to make whether its a short or long distance today, that’s your goal whenever you get there, being positive, proactive, managing your thinking styles, re-check your thinking every 20 minutes for example to ensure you are still thriving and being positive, and heading in the right direction. Keep doing this throughout the day, keep checking your mindset, increasing the time between each check time, say from every 20 minutes to every 2 hours if you are feeling more positive.

It is a great confidence booster for those who have lots of unhelpful thinking styles and belief systems in a non thriving way. It can be quite difficult to keep track of all those things but of course you don’t need to, all you need to do is ask yourself this best question from the Thrive Book “The thought that’s in my mind right now, is it helpful?” if its not then change it. This is a really good practice to have during the day to keep asking yourself this question every 20 mins or so too keep yourself on the right track, even if you go off on a tangent a little its not hard to get back on your journey to where you need to be.

You need to put some work in every single day for you to move in the right direction, remember it doesn’t matter how long it takes you to get there. You are building up momentum and you want that momentum to become so big and powerful that it becomes habitual.

Overcome Emetophobia fear of being sick-vomit – PACE, help video

Some Quicklinks:

Buy a copy of ‘Cure your emetophobia and thrive
Read about our research survey where all 164 participants overcame their emetophobia
View some emetophobia cure videos: real people who have overcome their fear of being sick and vomit
Locate a Thrive Consultant to help you work through the programme
Watch our emetophobia support videos on YouTube
Join our emetophobiacure Facebook support group
Follow @emetophobiacure on Twitter