Here you will find a glossary of terms used within The Thrive Programme, and especially in the 'Cure your emetophobia and Thrive' book
Anxiety: A fearful state of apprehension and doubt. Two types of anxiety: anticipatory and real-time. (Chapter 10)
Blip: A problem or set-back; an essential and inevitable part of the recovery process and an opportunity to test your new skills
Brooding: Dwelling or ruminating on a problem or situation, a step away from ‘obsessing’.
COD: Charitable on-going dialogue; positive self-talk
Colluding : Reinforcing and validating your phobia or unhelpful beliefs (Chapter 11)
Coué’s Law: ‘When the imagination and conscious will are in conflict, the imagination invariably wins the day’ (Also known as ‘‘Coué’s Law of Reversed Effort’) Devised by Psychologist Émile Coué de la Châtaigneraie. (Chapter 2)
Daily context: What sort of day do you want today? Set a daily context in which you want to view and process your day. E.g. 'Today I am going to create a brilliant day for myself'
Desire for Control: How much control you want or feel you need to have over your life (DfC) (q.v. Chapter 3)
Disgust propensity: General tendency to respond with the emotion of disgust - particularly to bodily fluids
ELoC: External Locus of Control (Chapter 3)
Emetophobia : A pathological fear of vomiting, sometimes called ‘specific fear of vomiting’ (SPOV)
Fire-fighting: Trying to constantly 'firefight' all the anxious and stressful thoughts and feelings you are creating, instead of perhaps building your 'Psychological Foundations' stronger so that you get create the thoughts and feelings in the first place.
Grooming: Surreptitious pressure to manipulate or con a person to believe and think in the same way as the person doing the grooming.
ILoC: Internal Locus of Control (Chapter 3)
Inner Voice: Self-talk. Your imagination ‘talking back to you’, sometimes in a negative way (Chapter 2)
‘It': “There is no ‘it’ “(Chapter 3)
Limiting beliefs: A set of personal beliefs that has a negative/damaging effect on your life (Chapter 1)
Locus of Control: A locus of control orientation is a belief about whether the outcomes of our actions are contingent on what we do (internal control orientation) or on events outside our personal control (external control orientation)." (Zimbardo, 1985)
Musterbating: Feeling like you ‘must’ do something; ‘should’ do something. Phrase coined by Psychologist Albert Ellis. (Chapter 9)
PACE: Persistent and Continuous Effort
Primary control: A belief that you strongly influence most of the events and outcomes in your life. ‘Making things happen’ (e.g. completing a task at work)
Processing the Positives: Task to help raise your self-esteem (Chapter 4)
Psychological foundations: Locus of control, social anxiety & self-esteem (also known as ‘beliefs triad’)
Psychoneuroimmunology (PNI): The interaction between people’s psychological processes, their endocrine and nervous systems and their immune system. The ‘mind-body connection’. (Chapter 10)
Safety-seeking/avoidance behaviours: Rituals or behaviours your perform to stop yourself from vomiting or being around others who might vomit
Secondary control: To believe that you have the skills and resources to respond positively and with resilience to situations beyond your control. Managing a situation well when things happen to us; dealing with a situation in real-time (e.g. when your car breaks down)
Secondary Gains: Reinforcements that maintain or perpetuate your cycle of behaviour. (Chapter 11)
Self-esteem: The way in which we view ourselves; a belief based on our recent thoughts and feelings you have about yourself. (Chapter 4)
Social Anxiety: Also known as ‘social phobia’, a fear of being judged by other people.
Stockdale Thinking: Retaining faith that you will prevail in the end and at the same time confront the brutal facts of your reality, whatever they might be (Chapter 11)
Significant Others: Any person who is important to your life or wellbeing with a strong influence you (may include Mother, sibling, partner) (Chapter 11)
The Thrive Formula: q.v. handout
Thriving: When a person is thriving, they have resources, self-awareness and attitude to flourish in every area of their lives. They have the skills to maintain a psychologically and physically healthy lifestyle and they are happy, confident and successful. Thriving individuals have the self-insight and resources to overcome or avoid developing symptoms such as anxieties, phobias or depression.
Tolerate: Experiencing uncomfortable feelings without resorting to safety seeking and avoidance strategies
Unhelpful thinking style: A way of thinking that has become exaggerated or dramatized over time and contributes to stress and anxiety levels (Including: Negative, Obsessive, Paranoid, Black & White, Compulsive, Learned helplessness, Catastrophic, Perfectionist & Hypervigilant)