Emetophobia Help: All About Control

Emetophobia Help: It's all about control

Emetophobia Help: All About Control

This is an emetophobia help post, detailing why control plays such a large part in your recovery. If you’re working through The Thrive Programme, you’ll know that it’s all about taking back power and control in your life. This is crucial in learning to thrive.

Power, control, desire for control, secondary control – feeling confused? This Emetophobia help guide will explain, and you will learn how it is all about control.

In order to thrive you’ll learn to develop strong psychological foundations. An ‘internal locus of control’ is a really important foundation: this means you will feel that you can have a huge impact on the life you life, rather than ‘life happening to you’.

In the Thrive Programme, we call this having ‘internal SPACE’.

SPACE

But it doesn’t stop there… You might be building your internal SPACE, and be told to reduce your ‘desire for control’. What? You’re being taught to build your internal sense of power and control but then you learn that too much desire for control is a bad thing? Well, this is confusing.

Primary Control

Primary control is our ability to plan and prepare: if you have ever achieved anything, it’s down to your primary control – you will have worked hard, organised yourself, mastered new challenges and used your direct influence to get results. All this is good! You need a certain amount of primary control in your life. But you don’t need to control everything and cater for every eventuality.

Secondary Control

Secondary control means ‘coping skills’. Even if you’re a master of organisation and prior planning, life is always going to be full of ups and downs and we need to feel confident in our coping skills. Someone with high secondary control knows they can face whatever life throws at them with flexibility, adaptability and resilience. Going into a situation feeling confident that you will be able to cope does not create stress and anxiety. Strong secondary control makes it easy to think straight and to feel calm.

How does The Thrive Programme for Emetophobia work?

The Thrive Programme is a six-part training programme based upon the ‘Cure Your Emetophobia and Thrive’ book. You can either work through the book or online course at home by yourself or you can complete it alongside face-to-face or Skype/Zoom/FaceTime sessions with a licensed Thrive Programme Coach®. Everything in the programme is fully backed up by clinical experience and research.

 

How Can the Thrive Programme Improve My Life?

Whether you are fit or unfit, well or unwell, happy or unhappy, healthy or unhealthy, the way you think and what you believe have a profound influence over the rest of your body. The Thrive Programme can enable people to overcome emetophobia and other fears and phobias, but it is also effective at helping a much wider range of symptoms and problems.

Here are some of the other problems/symptoms/situations that people have already used this programme with, to great effect: (Note: these are situations and symptoms taken from testimonials that people have already given us and can be viewed on our main Thrive Programme site)

  • Overcoming ME/Post Viral Fatigue/Chronic Fatigue
  • Helping to fight cancer/staying strong and positive during treatment and remission
  • Stopping smoking, staying a non-smoker (92.5% success in recent research project)
  • Resolving relationship issues – in families, marriages, and friends
  • Getting over alcoholism, either by stopping drinking, or drinking in moderation
  • Unexplained infertility
  • Chronic anxiety, panic disorder, phobias, fears, stress
  • Obsessions, obsessional thoughts, intrusive thoughts
  • Obesity, dieting, losing weight, maintaining a healthy weight
  • Anorexia Nervosa, bulimia, body dysmorphia, other eating disorders
  • Vaginismus, premature ejaculation, frigidity, low sex drive, dislike of sex
  • Getting a job, keeping a job, interview skills, building confidence skills
  • Building self-esteem, maintaining high self-esteem
  • Getting fit, climbing Everest, running a marathon, winning a martial-arts tournament, learning to play tennis, learning to swim, travelling the world, competing in international flying competitions…
  • Kids’ symptoms and issues, including: school phobias, bed-wetting, night-terrors, not eating, eating too much, separation anxiety, nail-biting, shyness, depression, anxiety, fibromyalgia, lack of confidence, hysterical symptoms, poor school work, poor academic performance, laziness, sibling rivalry
  • Insomnia (including not sleeping properly for 40 years!), poor sleep, bad dreams, hyper-vigilance, night-brooding, nightmares
  • Just being happy and enjoying life and getting the best out of every day of your life