The Trouble with Perfectionism
Perfectionism is not about high standards; it is about RIDICULOUSLY UNREALISTICALLY high standards where anything other than absolute perfection is seen as a failure! That’s the trouble with perfectionism
It is about always noticing mistakes and perceived flaws.
It is about thinking in a black and white/ all or nothing way about success and failure.
It is about giving yourself a hard time and beating yourself up for inevitably not meeting the impossibly high standards you constantly set for yourself.
It is about not seeing or processing your achievements.
It is linked to social anxiety: because perfectionists are so judgemental of themselves, they assume others will be equally judgemental of them.If you recognise yourself here – that is the first step!
Acknowledge that you are in the unhelpful habit of thinking this way. Then, ask yourself if it really is a complete failure if I don’t get 100% in my exam or I sent that email out with a spelling mistake on?! Change that perfectionist thinking into something more helpful and realistic. Cut yourself some slack and you’ll relax and enjoy your activities so much more
How does The Thrive Programme for Emetophobia work?
The Thrive Programme is a six-part training programme based upon the ‘Cure Your Emetophobia and Thrive’ book. You can either work through the book or online course at home by yourself or you can complete it alongside face-to-face or Skype/Zoom/FaceTime sessions with a licensed Thrive Programme Coach®. Everything in the programme is fully backed up by clinical experience and research.